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I love being a Libra, but it is the worst symbol-wise.
You can do many things with the other signs, but Libra has just scales.  54%  [ 14 ]
Libra (scales): SCALES. MORE SCALES. SCALE-Y SCALE SCALE. SO MANY SCALES THAT THE WORD LOOKS WEIRD NOW.  46%  [ 12 ]
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 Post subject: Understanding
Posted: Feb 9th, '19, 06:08    


Moi

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I've been watching the show Catfish on Hulu and some parts of it irk me.
They talk about how it's suspicious if someone doesn't have many photos or many friends on social media or do webcam or don't have a phone.

I don't like posting photos of myself because I feel that I'm ugly.
It's not like I'm hiding my identity and lying to people.
I just don't have the self esteem to post pictures of myself online.

I only have a handful of friends on Facebook because they're people I feel I can trust.
I don't add random strangers or even my own family members.
Not that I don't trust my family members, I just don't think they'd like the real me.

I don't do webcam because I think I'm ugly and it makes me uncomfortable having to verbally speak to people - even if they are friends.

And I don't own a cell phone. I can't afford one and I don't have anyone to call or text anyways really. So what's the point in owning one? I have a landline and I rarely leave home so it's not something I feel I need.

I find it sad that people don't take time to understand that it's normal that not everyone is the same or quickly act like they're shady and hiding things.

My reasoning is a lack of self esteem and my many insecurities and I don't find it very nice to just say I'm lying about myself and can't be trusted.

I guess I'm antisocial or asocial.
I'm not mean to anyone, but I avoid people like the plague.
I'd dig a tunnel under my house to get places just to avoid people.

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 Post subject: Re: Understanding
Posted: Feb 9th, '19, 08:29    


Akili Li

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... I don't find it suspicious, I find it reassuring that there are people out there who still have a sense of privacy....

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 Post subject: Re: Understanding
Posted: Feb 9th, '19, 16:28    


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There are a lot of episodes where someone thinks they talking to a model, or a rapper, or something like that. But then the model/rapper/whatever has a "normal" amount of friends and/or not many photos. And I think it is suspicious in those cases because I would expect a model to post lots of pics or at least not be camera shy or whatever, and I'd expect a rapper who was not huge but maybe a kind of a big deal locally to have some local fans following them or "friends" who are in the business, etc.

I think most of the people on the show are younger too. And I think it's more common than not for young people to post selfies, to have a cell phone, to have lots of online friends/followers, etc.

But I don't think it's suspicious for regular/not famous people to not do those things, especially as adults. I don't have a whole lot of pictures of myself on facebook because I'm not really into selfies, and not many people take pictures of me. And I would have fewer friends, but I admin some facebook groups with some other people, so we've all added each other.

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 Post subject: Re: Understanding
Posted: Feb 9th, '19, 18:00    


Akili Li

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Hm, can't say I am familiar with the show at all, but I guess it is a good point that someone who chose a public career path that is dependent on publicity would have more going on in social media.

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 Post subject: Re: Understanding
Posted: Feb 12th, '19, 02:19    


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Yeah, the famous ones would be suspicious in that case.
But as far as someone normal - like me - it's kind of rude to assume I'm a creepy or lying about myself 8u

I remember people saying this guy was creepy because he kept to himself and always had his hands in his pockets and even had a doll in a coffin.
Their suspicions were right in that case because he did murder someone.
But I do all of that and I have three of those dolls and I cry if I step on a bug and I'm incapable of hurting anyone.

I like learning about body language and watching people react to things and putting your hands on your hips or crossing your arms comes off as aggressive or angry - but I tend to do that because I have no pockets and nothing else to do with my hands and arms xD

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 Post subject: Re: Understanding
Posted: Feb 12th, '19, 04:49    


Akili Li

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I'm usually carrying a book around like a security blanket for adults, so I can fiddle with the book for something to do with my hands.... but yeah... wanting to maintain some privacy as a -ahem- private citizen- is not creepy, it's just sensible.

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 Post subject: Re: Understanding
Posted: Feb 12th, '19, 09:26    


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I don't think it's unusual at all to be more reserved. I think the message the show are trying to send is that if someone is going to interact with you they are probably a more outgoing person and will probably have more friends if the account is real. A more sociable person will probably have more friends than a introverted person, cuz we are really picky.
I for one am also quite introverted, I haven't posted a picture on facebook in 5 years, I'm still cleaning my friends list, cuz I don't even know some of them, but I'll also never think of randomly talking to people and asking them out on a whim. I think that's when the show wants people to think twice if something is not suspicious.
But to be honest, I know the threats of that show are real, but the show itself looks so practiced, I don't buy those stories to be real.

I hope I'm not oversteping, but I would like to add is that you shouldn't feel ugly. How much of you you want to share with the world is your decision, but I think is very important to appreciate yourself and someone as kind and attentive as you really shouldn't think of themself as ugly.

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 Post subject: Re: Understanding
Posted: Feb 13th, '19, 02:37    


Moi

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A book is a good idea.

I started messing with my hair when I talk to others now.
Like obsessively pull at it or try to undo any tangles.

Miky90: I think all "reality" tv is fake, but I still seem to enjoy it.
Especially since some shows have come out saying things are rehearsed or recreated.

I go from okay with my appearance to hating my appearance.
I have put on a lot of weight then lost some then put some back on then lost some...so I have a ton of stretchmarks and flabby parts and my skin is just horrific.
But I realize there's been people who have lost their looks and have to have surgery after surgery and stuff so I should shut up and be grateful for what I do have.

I don't judge people based on their appearance, but I feel everyone else judges me based on my appearance.
Mostly because I've been called ugly, had my face made fun of, people yelling at me because my Resting Bitch Face, etc.

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