Oh wow. I think there are good men out there who will treat your daughter as well as their own. But to make sure, I believe in teaching children bodily autonomy, what is and isn't appropriate, and terms that will get them taken seriously if they need to talk to someone about someone behaving inappropriately. I recently read a story about a girl who told her kindergarten teacher that she was upset her uncle was licking her cookie and the teacher just laughed and told her to tell her uncle to get his own cookie... until later they found out that the mother used the word "cookie" to refer to female genitalia... Not sure how true it is, since it was on the internet, but it really convinced me that kids need to know proper names for body parts. Maybe not to the point of labia majora and Cowper's gland, but something that'd get them taken seriously without being in the know. You know?

But you probably know about all of that. You're the mother here, after all. Sorry for childfreexsplaining to you.

Sunlight wrote: ↑Jun 28th, '24, 00:48 Oh wow. I think there are good men out there who will treat your daughter as well as their own. But to make sure, I believe in teaching children bodily autonomy, what is and isn't appropriate, and terms that will get them taken seriously if they need to talk to someone about someone behaving inappropriately. I recently read a story about a girl who told her kindergarten teacher that she was upset her uncle was licking her cookie and the teacher just laughed and told her to tell her uncle to get his own cookie... until later they found out that the mother used the word "cookie" to refer to female genitalia... Not sure how true it is, since it was on the internet, but it really convinced me that kids need to know proper names for body parts. Maybe not to the point of labia majora and Cowper's gland, but something that'd get them taken seriously without being in the know. You know?

But you probably know about all of that. You're the mother here, after all. Sorry for childfreexsplaining to you.

I'm working on becoming a public educator so it is very important to me that my daughter does use proper terminology so that she can tell me if someone is hurting her that way. Not only that my daughter understands that but that the students I teach also can tell that. I'd like to teach public school for troubled girls so thank you for having the right mindset. Even if you don't or do have children it's a sign of good character to care about their wellbeing.

That's great! Honestly, it sounds like you'll be on top of it if any potential suitor mean harm to your daughter, and you're preparing her well to keep herself safe, too.

But of course, you should be able to have a peace of mind if you were to date. If you aren't comfortable dating yet, then that's fine. If you never feel the need to date again, that's cool, too. I had actually never wanted the whole marriage thing growing up. In fact, I didn't think my relationship with my now-husband would last this long (we dated for 9 years before we got married); I thought he'd eventually get sick of my baggage, wise-up and leave. But it made me realize that there are good men out there and I feel really confident that I got one of them.

I hope you get that elective credit alright this (coming) semester so you can get to teaching. We need more people like you in the education system, I think.

I was just talking to a friend of mine who wanted to go out which is also a no-go rule for me. It's almost like the older the friendship the less I want to be in a romantic relationship.

Yes, I would much rather be with someone who didn't know me as well as my friends do in the beginning of a relationship. I know that sounds awful but I'm a big weirdo. B)

My longest, most healthy, and currently still going relationship developed from a friendship. Nothing helps you connect to someone on a deeper level than them truly knowing who you are before romantic feeling develop. God I love my partner so much. I couldn't imagine ever dating someone who didn't know me, but most importantly didn't UNDERSTAND me now that I have experienced great love.

Well, I suppose I didn't use the terms I wanted to correctly. I understand that it can be very liberating to be in a relationship with someone who knows you very well. I guess I'm just ready for a reset button with someone who wants to get to know me. Somehow I managed to miss that with someone I knew for almost twenty years. I almost feel so far away from wanting a partner that I'm almost okay with being a spinster lol.