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 Post subject: A Lie or Hope
Posted: Mar 28th, '17, 03:13    
Moi

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I recently watched a movie called When the Wind Blows.
In this hand-drawn animated tale, elderly married couple Hilda (Peggy Ashcroft) and Jim Bloggs (John Mills) have their quiet, simple lives in the English countryside interrupted when they learn of an impending nuclear attack. Not completely understanding the gravity of their situation, Hilda and Jim react archaically and insufficiently after the attack -- and the film takes a dark turn as the radiation begins taking its toll on the unsuspecting couple.


The husband tries to keep his wife calm by saying her illness from radiation is just a reaction that's normal and it's not that serious.
He knows it's bad, but he lies to her to make her not be afraid.
It got me to think about a manga I read, where a pilot lies to people to keep them happy and hopeful, but was lying and is murdered.

I think it's good to be honest about things, but I also have issues telling people things that will scare them or make them sick with worry.
It's not an easy decision for me to say "Yup, we're fucked 8D".
It's not easy for me to break people's spirits and hope.

I think hope is necessary and something to always have.
I've had a lot of horrible times with my depression and anxiety disorder, and I've survived because of hope.
I've had days where I wonder what the point to living is.
If I die, and cease to exist, then what's the point to try and do anything?
Why bother doing anything ever? I don't matter and nothing I do does.
But when I think that way, I feel hope about the future and I overcome it.

My question is:
Do you think it's wrong to cover the truth to keep someone calm?
Do you think it's a huge risk to not cover the truth?



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 Post subject: Re: A Lie or Hope
Posted: Apr 6th, '17, 11:36    
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Sometimes I think it's necessary. If someone's deathly afraid of needles you might need to lie to keep them calm in order to get anesthetic for a surgery that'd save their life without them thrashing about in panic. When you're hiding from a crazy gunman it might be a good idea to make it into a stay-quiet game with the kids so that they don't panic and start bawling out loud. But when things aren't so bad I think it's better to have the truth so that people can prepare for it. Maybe not right away but eventually when people are calmer and can accept things without going into a frenzy.

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 Post subject: Re: A Lie or Hope
Posted: Apr 6th, '17, 21:49    
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I agree ^
My sister was afraid of getting a shot in her arm, but I told her it wasn't that bad and she'd barely feel it.
She went "OW-- Oh u8" and now she's not scared of them.
She thought it'd hurt a lot, and I said it'd hurt, but not very much.
I didn't go "Yeah, it stings like a bitch 8U"

I just don't like seeing people scared or hurting.
I want to make it stop.

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 Post subject: Re: A Lie or Hope
Posted: Apr 12th, '17, 09:38    
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My fiance always says "I'd rather an ugly truth than a beautiful lie".
Those are words I live by now.
As much as I want to phrase things in a way that I don't unnecessarily hurt someone, I will not lie to them to spare their feelings. If I care enough about you to talk to you, I care too much to lie to you. People deserve to know the truth, and react accordingly. Even if it hurts. If I'm worried about how they will respond, I think that the best thing you can do is tell them in a gentle way, then be there for them afterwards, to support them, to listen to their concerns, to be a shoulder to cry on, to do whatever you can to help them get through.
A true friend doesn't lie to spare your feelings. A true friend tells you how it is, then helps you through it.
Of course, that's just my opinion, though.

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 Post subject: Re: A Lie or Hope
Posted: Mar 8th, '18, 00:37    
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It depends on the situation I guess. I personally want to be told the truth at all times. My husband likes comforting lies much of the time.

If it was to keep them calm and not cause further harm, sure, lie your butt off.

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 Post subject: Re: A Lie or Hope
Posted: May 20th, '18, 08:04    
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I think lying is only okay if it's to save a life. In any other instance it is selfish.

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