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How do you mend a broken heart?
Posted: Oct 27th, '18, 21:25
by DragonCryings
So, I have been dealing with a broken heart for almost a year now. I am definitely not over it, so I have been trying to be super busy so I do not think about it. Not to mention have made the saddest playlist I could find to cope when pain get too sharp.
I have heard that you need as many years as the relationship lasted to get over someone important. Do you believe that is true?
Also, how do you mend a broken heart?
Re: How do you mend a broken heart?
Posted: Oct 27th, '18, 21:42
by Moi
I've never been in the type of relationship like boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife but I've had a lot of family and friends die.
My dog actually died last week and I cried for about 4 days.
I stopped for a few days, but I cried again yesterday.
I don't think you can ever fully mend a broken heart.
I think you can just make it hurt less, but it will always be damaged.
It hurts a lot, but the pain dulls over time. For me.
It was 10 years ago on October 16th that my grandpa died.
He was like a second dad and his dying hurt me a lot.
I don't mourn over him like I used to, but if I think about him, I cry.
I was actually talking to someone who said that remembering the good times helps a lot and it does.
But for actual relationships, I'm not sure if that'd help or make it worse o_O
I think you should always make time to mourn and be sad.
If you force it away, you're not dealing with it.
Re: How do you mend a broken heart?
Posted: Oct 28th, '18, 18:36
by Boris_Boris
I have heard that listening to sad songs helps, since it's suppose to help you feel related to the lyrics of the song. I have also heard thinking about the good times helps as well; although, I don't know if it works with relationships.
Try going out for walks and keep yourself occupied as well. I heard walking is supposed to help make one feel better, and it's supposed to help improve memory.
Re: How do you mend a broken heart?
Posted: Oct 28th, '18, 19:29
by TrickyLA
Gosh, I hope not. I'm still trying to unpackage a long friendship turned relationship that ended. Over four years worth. If it took me that long to get myself in order, I don't know. I hope not. 
Re: How do you mend a broken heart?
Posted: Oct 29th, '18, 01:01
by DragonCryings
We were together for 5.5y
This past year, it has been as if nothing has changed for me. I am starting to think that it does take as many years, but thought I'd ask around. Obviously I am not rushing myself to forget or anything. But I am not thinking of the good times either, that seems to put me in a very bad mood hahaha.
Re: How do you mend a broken heart?
Posted: Oct 29th, '18, 01:01
by DragonCryings
Ups, not sure why it got posted twice XD
Re: How do you mend a broken heart?
Posted: Oct 29th, '18, 21:03
by Moi
I had a friend that lived close by and we ended up in school together.
She told a lie about me and I stopped being her friend.
Every time I think of her, I get annoyed.
Like we were good friends, but now she just pisses me off.
Can't think of any good times xD
Re: How do you mend a broken heart?
Posted: Oct 31st, '18, 12:55
by Poshi
It took me almost 2 years to get over my 1st relationship. It ended on poor terms. One thing that really helped me get over him was reconnecting after 1.5 years. Now we're friends and being friends again you come to realise that the person is not for you (in many ways).
I'm also in a new relationship now and it really makes you notice how unhappy you were in your previous relationship. I think spending time with friends is a good way to heal as well and picking up hobbies.
Re: How do you mend a broken heart?
Posted: Nov 1st, '18, 17:18
by DragonCryings
Thanks everyone for the warm advices
Re: How do you mend a broken heart?
Posted: Nov 13th, '18, 21:49
by Batcheva
I guess it depends on what "getting over" means.
I was in a relationship with my Ex Husband for 15 years. But he spent the last year and half of it being as horrible as possible to me, so that by the time he up and just left one day while I was at work, I was only devastated for about a week. Then I got good and mad. I did cry a lot for a couple of months, but that was it. I do still think of him at least weekly and it always makes me extremely angry. I am not over that part I guess.
I think a lot of getting over a relationship depends on whether or not you were the one that left. When one is the one left behind it's very hard not to ask what you did wrong, how could you have made things okay.
My best way of getting over things to an extent is to simply stop thinking about them and go ahead and do things to go on with everyday living. I really do find that the best way to cope with anything from my Ex to my parents deaths. Not thinking about it gives the memories time to gather distance and scab over.