Kingdom of Knuffel

Things have been crazy lately. I kinda got what I wanted but I'm starting to have second thoughts now. I'm about to step outside my comfort zone again but this time it's twice as harder than my first attempt.

Do you think that sometimes it is necessary to move somewhere else to completely start over again?

have you ever been in a situation where you need to move far away from the place you once called home to achieve emotional maturity, career growth or just to get away from things you cannot change and move on?

Yes. Since I was 17 (now almost 30), I've known I have to get away from this place where I am even now (it's dangerous to my mental and physical health), but you know, money. Don't have any.

I've always had times where I've been kinda tempted to..

Do you guys know of postsecret?

If not, it's an art project that went viral where an artist ask people to send him anonymous postcards with their secrets on - the blog's been running for a few years now and he does live events.

ANYWAY - there's one particular secret that's always resonated with me that goes something along the lines of "Everyone who knew me before 9/11 thinks I'm dead"
There's always been something horribly tempting for me about leaving everything and everyone I know behind and having a fresh start, effectively becoming a new person.

Back when I was suicidal, it was a thought that kind of kept me going, thinking that once I reached the age when I could get a proper job/ could move out from my parents, I would be able to just disappear (although looking back on those thoughts now, I'm 95% sure that such an action would have just given me the perfect excuse to actually just off myself)

Annnyhooooos, depressing ramblings aside - I kinda did get a chance to half do this when I was a kid - When I moved up to secondary school, none of the other kids I knew were heading up to the same place, so I made a decision that I wasn't going to let myself become a victim of bullying again - and so put out a super hard-ass persona until I'd settled in and made friends P:

So yeah, I think extracting yourself from a bad situation and making changes to how you react to problems so it doesn't reoccur is potentially a good idea. But completely cutting all ties is probably not xP

@Leo

have the same dilemma like that too, although I got accepted. there is still a possibility where I might have to withdraw my application if the expense of moving in becomes too overwhelming to cover from my savings

@Reht

In my case, I'm not completely planning to cut all ties. I just so happened to live in the countryside 1000 miles away from my target firm/s. I'm anxious and excited with the idea of being independent and living on my own but afraid of budgeting expenses stuff.

well, can't say I totally fit in this neighborhood either now but it's still is bearable to live in here as I have some wonderful childhood memories in this one horse town.

I have been a victim of bullying and used to be the quietest and most introverted person in class (at some point in my elementary years) in the past and like you, I have also learned to overcome those. cheers to us:qw:

anyways..

this art project you have mentioned sounds awesome:qlov: I wish we have that kind of event in here

I used to critique teasing and bullying... it got so the kids would come up and say something just to hear what I'd return, which was annoying, so then I started lecturing them instead on basic creativity and research and they're certainly old enough to uncover the better insults themselves, expecting me to do their work for them was just laziness on their part...

I didn't really have peer-aged friends, lol. But I was such a boring enemy that I didn't really have enemies either.

But that technique was only eventually developed because we moved a fair bit when I was a kid, and that gave me chance after chance at trying new techniques out.

Which was, yes, helpful.

@strawblairery:

Ah, that sounds great c:
Hope everything goes well for you there C:
Budgeting and expenses seem scary at first, but they're really not so bad as long as you're smart about it - always keep in mind what money you have and what portion of it needs to be put aside for important things asnd you should be fine c:
(the main thing is just not to bury your head in the sand and 'ignore' bills or rack up credit card debts P: )

Anda, if you're interested in postsecret here's a link - it updates with new postcards every sunday c:

I have always lived within an hour drive of where I grew up. Now I live about 10-15 minutes away from the house I grew up in.

Yes, I've known I've needed to leave where I'm at in order to get mentally well and actually have a chance at living a better life. Now I'll finally have the chance--I'm moving away for school, with a stipend, so hopefully I'll have enough money/education from here on out to never need to go back home for a place to live.

I'm not planning on cutting ties completely with the people from where I'm at now who are actually kind and care about me as a person. My family is just a cluster of malignant narcissism and emotional abuse that I need to have physical space away from. My life right now gets dictated too much by their craziness--it dictates when I eat, what I eat, when I can sleep, when I can work in my room, where I take care of personal hygiene, where I keep and wash my clothes...it's really, really bad.

I'm so thankful I have the chance to finally leave it behind for good.

For some people it's really a necessity.

It was for me. I had to get away from my mom. It's been about 5 years and I've finally started to blossom. It's great.