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Re: ~Tranquil Hangout~ (new poll 09.09.15)
Posted: Apr 19th, '17, 21:45
by CycloneKira
Popping in here after a long time. How's it going, everyone?
Re: ~Tranquil Hangout~ (new poll 09.09.15)
Posted: Apr 19th, '17, 22:31
by Mirika
In my country we have a break next week, so I do get some allowance to catch up to stuff luckily...

But yeah, still gotta focus on two deadlines this Friday first.
Hello Kira! I'm good, how about you?
Re: ~Tranquil Hangout~ (new poll 09.09.15)
Posted: Apr 20th, '17, 00:04
by jacobgrey
Hey Kira! I'm doing good too :)
I'm having a weird time where I have barely any deadlines on. I do have work but it's on a "do it when you feel like" basis. Which is deceptive because actually I should do it ASAP in order to get paid for it ASAP. But my brain reads "no deadline" as "put it off til tomorrow and have a day off" XD
Re: ~Tranquil Hangout~ (new poll 09.09.15)
Posted: Apr 20th, '17, 08:31
by Dearest
JK: I'm in the same boat lol! I have term papers all lined up, but I don't feel like doing them now because they're due at the end of term, but the end of term is in like, two weeks, so I really need to use the time now. But the only homework I'm able to make myself do is stuff due the next day. So I'm frittering away the time binge-watching
Legend of the Blue Sea and on KofK.
Mirika: My holidays begin May 7th. I've got deadlines leading all the way up to that date. Haha maybe I can focus on the top poster prize for May, since it doesn't look like I can possibly be in (or put myself in) the running for this month.
I'm not too dissappointed about that though because I donated enough to get the GotQ already... I just thought it'd be nice to be a top poster, just for the title's distinction... and of course to have a double of the GotQ that I could sell

#greeeeed
Kira: Hey, hey, hey! It's going better than it used to back when I was a conscientious good girl doing all her work all the time

because I'm happy more often now (KofK being my happy place

)
Re: ~Tranquil Hangout~ (new poll 09.09.15)
Posted: Apr 20th, '17, 08:43
by CycloneKira
I. NEED. TO. STUDY.
I have an exam tomorrow for crying out loud but I just can't bring myself to study. I just really really really want to go home. And see my family and friends. And drink a lot of juice. I ask for such simple things in life :/
Re: ~Tranquil Hangout~ (new poll 09.09.15)
Posted: Apr 20th, '17, 10:06
by Dearest
I feel ya. When I made a thread in Chats about binge-watching I mentioned how I seem to crave to do it the most just when I have the most stuff to do i.e. when I'm the most stressed. I think that's the case with a lot of people. When insurmountable stress is being put on you, you just want to relax
IKR.

Why, oh why have humans built their lives to be so complicated. We're doing so many things in order to be happy that by the time we're finished with those things we don't have time left over to be happy.
Re: ~Tranquil Hangout~ (new poll 09.09.15)
Posted: Apr 20th, '17, 10:29
by CycloneKira
I know right

It's a never ending chain of events.
Re: ~Tranquil Hangout~ (new poll 09.09.15)
Posted: Apr 20th, '17, 12:15
by jacobgrey
You just basically described what is wrong with humans XD
This is why I quit my job and started working for myself. I want to be happy NOW. My partner has been signed off work with stress for a couple of weeks because his job is so awful. And guess what? Best couple of weeks ever, because I get to do a job I enjoy and spend time with my honey all day. Now I just need to figure out a way to make this happen when he goes back to work too XD
Re: ~Tranquil Hangout~ (new poll 09.09.15)
Posted: Apr 20th, '17, 14:31
by Dearest
Exactly lol. What's wrong is humans is that they don't give importance to what's ACTUALLY important
My health is fucked, maybe for life, because I made a stupid choice in the face of pressure, a choice which meant unhealthy overdoses of stress and an unhealthy lifestyle of sitting on my ass all day and cramming. So now my digestive system is chronically messed up and I can't do most of the things I thought I'd do after suffering a stressful couple of years through, like going out. For anything. THAT'S what it took for me to realize what was important.
No, actually, I knew what was important even then. But I took the path of least resistance. I KNEW what I was doing was bad for me, but I did it because others would give me hell if I didn't. I was weak, and I chose wrong- KNOWING it was wrong- so now I'm being punished for it.
Sorry for the textwall
Anyway.
That's wonderful! I remember you were having a hard time at your old job, we talked about it both here and in Life Issues. The decision was a long time coming and I'm glad you made the decision and that it's giving you happiness
I know it's not that easy, but does he have to go back to the same job?
After school I chose what would make me happy, too. My body prevents me from really being happy, but I'm in a MUCH better place now. It's still bittersweet because it's a student hostel- so I can't control what I get to eat, and I have to deal with horrible public bathrooms- and I not only don't get to go out and do much, but I'm late for classes and miss events that happen right on campus (thanks, body.) That hurts, because I'm not going to get such opportunities dropped on my lap anytime except in college. But I guess I have to be content with how much I'm able to do.
It's definitely not easy- it took me
months to get my mother around to the idea that I wasn't going to study in med school but in a liberal arts college- and I still get shit from a lot of people about it, but I'm able to disregard those opinions as not worthy of brain space
Seriously, stress is just not worth it. It can have pretty drastic consequences and long-term stress will just screw you over.

I hope your partner is able to figure something out as well.
Re: ~Tranquil Hangout~ (new poll 09.09.15)
Posted: Apr 20th, '17, 16:40
by jacobgrey
Me too - that old job was so stressful that it actually took my fibro symptoms to a new level that they will never recover from. I don't think people realise how harmful stress is until they have it for themselves. If I had been already diagnosed at the time, I would never have stayed there for so long.
He's been offered a new job but the other company are being REALLY slow at everything. He actually first went for an interview there around Christmas. At first they turned him down for the position he applied for, but then offered him the same job at a different branch, which he does want. Then he had to ask what they would pay. Then it took them two weeks to decide. Then he said he wanted it. Now they're already a week later and he hasn't seen the contract yet. But fingers crossed they get on with it soon and he can sign it, then offer resignation from his current job.
It's still 30 days of leave to work after that though, which he might have to do. But hopefully he will find it easier to do once he knows he's leaving.
I just want him to be happy. For the first time in a long time, since he's been off work, he's doing things like humming tunes when he walks around the house and wanting to cook and clean. Seeing him happy only makes me feel more heartbroken for the last year or so now I realise just how stressed he got.
Also never be sorry for textwalls :P