Kingdom of Knuffel

That actually sounds like super sensible priorities :)

I do hope I'll find something with a good work environment and nice people, too :)
I hope it'll be in my area of studies, though, since I enjoy that stuff and also, I'll probably be paid a lot more in a job that I studied for than in one that I have no special qualifications for and that basically anyone with any other background could do just as well. And I didn't spend years in uni just for the fun of it ;)

Haha totally understandable c':

in my family my brother always had them career making goals so my idea of 'idk I just want to enjoy the job I'll be doing for most of my life' was always seen as 'um don't you want to make a lot of money though and where are your goals/hopes/dreams aim high girl etc' but I always had the thought that if I could make enough to support myself comfortably that's just fine by me. Not that I want to really leave my uni studies behind me but my end goal has always been comfort

Yeah, makes perfect sense to me. What good is money if you hate your day to day life?
I mean, I'd like a job that pays decently, so I can afford some little luxuries, but not if I'd have to sacrifice being happy and enjoying it for that.

Somebody told me nice little story about this once, it went something like this:
A manager talks to a fisherman and asks him why he doesn't scale up his business, hires people, makes it more efficient to earn more money. The fisherman asks why he should do that. The manager answers that he can then take nice vacations and do the stuff he likes and asks the fisherman if he didn't have something he'd like to do then. And the fisherman goes "I'd go out to the lake and do some fishing."

super cute story, kind of reminds me about the one with one person holding a cookie. They ask the other person if they want a piece of the cookie, the other person puffs up and goes 'I have 2 cars, a vacation house in Spain, a swimming pool' etc and at the end the other person asks 'but do you have a cookie?' when answered no he asks 'do you want a piece of my cookie' and the cookie is split in half and shared ~ not exactly similar lesson but I do like the story.

I like to just like my job, and keep my hobbies and passions outside of it as the filling of my day to day life. A job doesn't have to be that, its super awesome if it is but the truth is that it just isn't for many people and its ok to just be able to say 'I like my job, its ok and I like my colleagues' and have that be all. If there's one thing I don't like its that sense of pressure on having a fullfilled life that focusses way too much on successes and standards that truth be told a lot lot of people just don't achieve in life. Leading them to think they've failed somehow?? Like no nuhuh that doesn't fly with me c':

Yeah, I know what you mean - things don't always have to be just perfect and everything you do you don't have to be super passionate about to be happy. Being happy itself should be the goal.
For me, my area of studies is not really something I'd do as a hobby next to another job though, I have enough other hobbies I'd rather do that feel less like work to me ;) So it's a good fit to have it as a thing I enjoy but I'd rather get paid to do ;)

and that's valid and enough, wish more people got that realisation that not everyone has to have the highest ambitions to be happy in life c':

Yeah, there can be a lot of pressure to strive for perfection with some people... Which ultimately probably is good for very few people. Most people won't actually achieve super high goals and then just be unhappier than if they had properly thought about what it really is they value and going for something that can give them more happiness with less stress about it.

sadly so many people are brought up with this idea of aiming high and being ambitious as being the norm that you should strive for that anything less feels like 'settling for' when really as long as you're happy that should be just fine. My family took some time in really understanding that for me, that I didn't want a big house, a big family of my own and a huge salary etc c':

but I'm doing good and I'm happy so in the end that's what matters for them too so s'all good ~

I can live with "settling" for happiness :D
But yeah, it's not really what one is taught to shoot for, for some reason.
Not that I'd have anything against having my own house and family at some point though ;) But it doesn't have to be the biggest and bestest of everything, just enough to feel like it's my own and I can do things like I want them.

It's good if they accept how you choose to live your life, even if they don't fully understand your motivations :)

it's a nice goal for sure but it shouldn't be the default, basically c:

I'mma stick with my bff as a housemate and a cat or two haha