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Re: [ Amura's house on a tree ]

Posted: Oct 3rd, '21, 14:53
by Jolien
@ Snipehunt:

Late reply, but usually black coffee, cappuccino whenever I feel fancy or can order it somewhere. <3

Actually somewhat better today, even though they're more acquintances than friends, I was kinda shocked when I heard their 20-year old son died in an accident. The 2 boys watched our boys like, 2 weeks ago?

Still don't really know what to do, we don't fall into the "close friends" group, but we did meet several times recently. With the parents that is...

Re: [ Amura's house on a tree ]

Posted: Oct 3rd, '21, 20:55
by Moi

Amura: That's ridiculous o_O
And every bad for his health xD
I'd at least find something 8u
Like I don't like Chinese food much and despite me wanting to like Japanese food - I don't care for a lot of stuff like that.
However, I can find something I will eat and just cut the other stuff out.
Like the curry chicken at the Chinese place down the street.
It came with rice and vegetables but I asked them for just the chicken and they made it for me that way.
It tasted okay but I was kinda disappointed at the spiciness of it.
It had a red chili pepper next to it on the menu but it was honestly bland.
I'm Mexican, you gotta kick that spiciness up a notch \8u/

There's such a thing as stuff matching too much 8u?
Oh, yeah, I could not decorate a garden xD
I would also never have a garden irl - I don't want to kill nature u,8

With me, I gotta be in the mood to make avatars. If I try to force it, I can't do anything right.
I spent like 2 hours trying to make one before I just made the maid one.
Then for whatever reason, I wanted to change something and I clicked on this hair by accident and then this avatar happened ._.
It is a good combo 8u
Firn's come a long way with making knuffel and items to wear.

Jolien: That's really sad ;;
My aunt had dated this guy a few times and he remained a close family friend.
He even bonded with my grandpa over music - it was so cute.
He came to visit us for the 4th of July a few years ago and two weeks later, these people knocked on our door and they told us he was dead.
He had been riding around on his motorcycle and had a heart attack and died.
That was such a shock because he had just been here ;~;

Re: [ Amura's house on a tree ]

Posted: Oct 3rd, '21, 21:27
by Amura
OMG, Jolien, that's terrible news.
I never know how to behave in such cases... What to say to those parents? I can't even imagine what they are going thru.



@Moi:
Yes, that was ridiculous. And I would even say shameful.
Most people don't like everything on a menu, but there is always something - if only one thing - you may enjoy.

I do like trying, and often I'm disappointed. But other times you just find something which is awesome. So it's worth trying.
I remember going to the Netherlands and trying this dessert - vla. I loved it, and make it every once in a while.
And I've been to Portugal many times, so there are a bunch of recipes I regulary do at home.
And Japanese food! I have a bunch of favourites there too.

Re: [ Amura's house on a tree ]

Posted: Oct 3rd, '21, 22:30
by Jolien
We just met up with their close friends who kept us updated and who actually connected us to them.. They talked a bit, I think it felt good for them to let it go as well and apparently the parent's have talked to a spiritual person, afterwards they thought there might have been some signs, as if it was a delibirate goodbye?! I dunno, I think it's shock and holding on to tiny straws and trying to deal with it somehow. Seems like the little brother might have been hurt the most, I feel so, so sorry for them.

We thought of giving them some tulip bulbs for the garden, maybe it could bring some happiness in spring. Dunno, think there will be a remembrance sometime next week, we'll see.

Re: [ Amura's house on a tree ]

Posted: Oct 4th, '21, 01:48
by Moi

I remember my ex-aunt making zucchini muffins and she offered me some and I was like "Ew 8u"
My mom later coaxed me into eating one and it was really good.
I expected a vegetable-y taste but it tasted more like pumpkin 8u

It sounds really sad. Everyone grieves differently and I think people do try to cling to certain things to help them.
I think giving them something of any kind is a nice gesture.

Re: [ Amura's house on a tree ]

Posted: Oct 4th, '21, 10:08
by Jolien
Zucchini muffins are good actually, I've baked cookies with it before and you don't taste it. It's just filling. :)

Re: [ Amura's house on a tree ]

Posted: Oct 4th, '21, 18:33
by Amura
Zuchini, pumpkin, carrots. All those are great in sweet recipes. Yummy!


Everone grieves differently indeed.
But it's nice of you being supportive. I'm sure it's much needed after such a terrible loss.

Re: [ Amura's house on a tree ]

Posted: Oct 4th, '21, 20:49
by Moi

I want more zucchini muffins 8,u
She gave us the recipe but that was a long time ago.

The best way to make me eat food from a different country is if it's dessert.
I find it hard to not like a dessert - especially if it has chocolate in it.

A lot of people don't understand that people grieve differently.
Like I've mentioned a million times - I love true crime stuff and I see people say "Oh, they're not doing this so they must have killed them or don't even care!"
When my grandpa who was like a third parent to me died, I went to his funeral, I didn't cry, after the funeral I went home and came in my room by myself and posted on here and talked to people.
I didn't cry and wanted to be alone.
The reason I didn't cry was because I cried every day before he died.
The reason I wanted to be alone was that I just like being alone xD
It surprised me when I told my uncle I wanted to be alone and he said it was perfectly okay and he understood.
I was like "Whaaaaaaat?" because a lot of people would have complained >>

Re: [ Amura's house on a tree ]

Posted: Oct 4th, '21, 21:35
by Amura
Some people just don't cry in public.
Others may not cry at all.

I find it disgusting that some people claim you must show your feelings in this or that way, otherwise they are not "real" or "good enough".
Be it grieve, joy or love.
You feel what you feel, and you show what you show. If you make up rules you're pushing people to faking their true feelings.

Re: [ Amura's house on a tree ]

Posted: Oct 5th, '21, 01:42
by Moi

I won't admit I'm good at many things, but I'm pretty good at understanding feelings/emotions.
My whole life, I've been called a crybaby or too sensitive for the way I react to stuff.
So I've payed extremely close attention to people and their feelings and why they feel what they do and why they act the way they do.
Even when someone doesn't know why they're acting the way they are - I can tell them.
I thought this was something everyone could do but it's clearly not ._.

Because of my depression and anxiety disorder, I cried a lot most of my life.
It's easy to make me cry and I used to get mocked and yelled at for crying.
People didn't understand that I was depressed and over-anxious.

A lot of people were taught not to show emotion too.
Like it's some big thing you're supposed to keep to yourself and no one else should ever know.
I remember my dad telling me that he understand depression now that he's experienced it and he's sorry for getting made at me when I'd cry.
He also told me that when he was young, people didn't talk about depression.
He said any time he felt depressed, he'd just self-medicate until he felt better.