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Re: ♥ • • Miss Nikki's Hangout • • ♥
Posted: Sep 8th, '19, 22:06
by Death Candy
And play stupidly. XD
Yeah. But I'm alright.
I feel like that often. But for me I enjoy having someone who is born from me, to love and hug daily and kiss. And I love hearing "I love you Mommy." "Mommy I made this for you." But it's not for everyone. I may talk about my experiences, but I avoid saying things like: "You need a kid." "You're life isn't complete without one." Because that's not true. Everyone's life is complete in the way that they feel makes it complete. For me it's being a mom, for you it's being childless. At least we're happy.
Yes. Both my parent's make sure I take my meds and they make sure I marked it on the calendar so I don't forget or don't accidentally overdose. So if no one sees me take them I mark it off and immediately let someone know.
Re: ♥ • • Miss Nikki's Hangout • • ♥
Posted: Sep 10th, '19, 04:02
by light_sucks
It's nice to play stupid once in a while. lol.
I'm glad that you're feeling better now.
I'm also glad that you enjoy motherhood. There are so many different people that really don't enjoy being a parent and they're stuck with it because they're not awful. It's horrible that people tell everyone that everyone should be parents or they'll regret it. A lot of the times they do regret it.
People should be honest about how difficult it is. And that not everyone will enjoy it.
I think that people should be more honest in general.
I have a weekly pill thingy that helps remind me. I have to take a LOT of pills. lol.
Re: ♥ • • Miss Nikki's Hangout • • ♥
Posted: Sep 11th, '19, 00:09
by Death Candy
Yes. lol
Thanks.
Oh yeah. It's it's not easy. Here's some honesty.
Spoiler
Being pregnant is a bitch. You have to carry a tiny human for NINE. LONG. MONTHS. Thank god we're not elephants. They're pregnant for a year and a half! And I went into labor for 23hrs. It was really difficult and she ended up with feces in her lungs. My friend Jessica, who was there with me, waiting till Joslyn was a year old to tell me that they had a defibrillator ready because she wasn't breathing. But luckily she started coughing up the stuff and was breathing fine. She had to sit in the NICU for a few hours. But she's very healthy. However she has some behavior issues, so we're seeing a doctor about that. Well she only has the problems at home, but not at school and she's pretty good in stores.
And after my sister had her son, she needed a blood transfusion, and she's on bed rest for 3 months. And if her iron levels don't go up, she's going to need another blood transfusion. They also had to remover her tubs due to the difficult birth. And her legs are so swollen she may have to go in to get them drained. Her scar isn't healing the best. And if it wasn't for the fantastic doctors and nurses, she might have died.
And my older sister Krystal died because she had a long umbilical cord and she was strangled by it during birth. It was very painful for my mom. My mom had like one or more miscarriages before giving birth to my brother.
So that's what could happen to anyone who gets pregnant. It is most definitely not for everyone. Many women don't want the physical along with the emotional pain. It can be very scary. There was fear and pain, but we have no regrets. Well in my case the only thing I regret is I slept with a dickwad. But at least I don't have to worry about custody. She's all mine! And it's not all pain and fear. There's the love and the fun of enjoying life with someone who is apart of you. But it really isn't for everyone.
Right now my sister is taking six different pills. I have three anti-depressants. Two for the day time, one for night to help keep me from getting nightmares so much. I also had to go to the ER
Short Story here and now I have two more pills just in case.
Re: ♥ • • Miss Nikki's Hangout • • ♥
Posted: Sep 11th, '19, 11:58
by light_sucks
Yeah, not worth it in my opinion. If I want a small human I will buy preowned. lol.
Yeah, tons of people die in childbirth every year.
It's good you don't have to worry about custody. A lot of people have so many fights with their exes and it gets so ugly. It's sad really.
I take uhhhh. Let me count. 11 pills a day. 2 for depression, 1 allergy pill, and the rest for dealing with pain. Good times.
Re: ♥ • • Miss Nikki's Hangout • • ♥
Posted: Sep 23rd, '19, 02:08
by Death Candy
LMAO If you don't want to constantly change diapers, make sure it has a few miles on it. XD
My sister is on bed rest for 6 months now and she almost died giving birth. Luckily they took out her tubes as it was necessary. So no more babies for her unless she adopts, but they don't want more. Because he has one? two? children of his own and he's trying to get custody of them.
I know. I've seen and heard the issues. Alice's, my sister's oldest daughter, biological father lives in Hawaii and when he Skypes with my sister and Alice, Alice doesn't care or want to talk to him and after saying "Hi" she'll leave to go play. And then he gets angry with my sister and she tells him off. He actually doesn't want anything to do with either of them, but since he has to pay child support he contacts them just to be a pest.
Wow. That's a lot.
Re: ♥ • • Miss Nikki's Hangout • • ♥
Posted: Sep 25th, '19, 16:35
by Aradiiaa
hello!!! i feel weird just hopping into a thread after being spotty in activity for so long, i'm glad there's a lil survey thingy lol
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Name: aradia (that's what my current username is supposed to be anyway)
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Age: 22
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Location: currently in...Shanghai, China
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Occupation: freelancer? i guess? just small time art or writing commissions for friends and acquaintances~
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Interests: Writing + reading, drawing (mostly portraits and character design), tarot, spirituality (mine is pretty eclectic), web content, can't remember much else because i'm pretty scattered but i enjoy hearing others talk about their interests, even if i don't actively contribute to the conversation.
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Favorite Colors: light purples, blue, black, grays, silver (if that counts lol)
Re: ♥ • • Miss Nikki's Hangout • • ♥
Posted: Sep 26th, '19, 03:16
by Audriella
Hi light and DC!
I used to really want to be a mom, but after actually thinking about it, I think I wanted an ideal? Philosophically, I don’t want to be one. My disease is genetic, and I wouldn’t be able to bear passing it on.
There are so many risks with pregnancy and childbirth! Even if I was healthy, that would scare me. Adoption, maybe, if I wasn’t a disaster.
An update: I am in the final steps of getting my AAC device (it’s an accessibility communication something), and typing will likely become much more difficult/slow once I get it. It’s already a strain on my shoulder. If I post, it’ll be rarely, unfortunately. At least, I think so. This is a vague but happy way to end my tale, I believe. Thank you both for chatting with me.
Re: ♥ • • Miss Nikki's Hangout • • ♥
Posted: Sep 26th, '19, 17:46
by Death Candy
Motherhood can be fun, but also exhausting.
I hope if you can message us again. I enjoy our chats.
Re: ♥ • • Miss Nikki's Hangout • • ♥
Posted: Sep 26th, '19, 19:08
by Audriella
I don’t know how bad it’ll be. I think I’ll be exhausted and slow.
Still, not straining to type will be awesome. :D
Re: ♥ • • Miss Nikki's Hangout • • ♥
Posted: Sep 26th, '19, 20:15
by Chrizine
Yay, I'm glad to see you around again, Audriella, I was wondering a few days ago how you might be doing.
Glad to hear that you'll be getting a device to help your communication, even though it's sad that it will not help in communicating with us.
I'm holding my thumbs that it will work out alright and you might still pop in for a short post from time to time.
But if that is not feasible for you and you have other things you'd rather spend your energy on, know that there's some people here who will keep you in their memories fondly :)