Haha, it's hard to control your temper, I get that myself

Oh, I only gained some weight on my belly and I looked legit pregnant, like 6th month or something, and I hated it Now I'm almost back to my high school self, still working on my slight love handles. But at least I can see I have a waist again XD
I've always been thin (some would say even skinny or would accuse me of being an anorectic... which wasn't nice, it's just how I'm built my bff used to struggle with anorexia, then with bulimia, she's still kind of struggling with it), but I began indulging myself with food and I'm leading a sitting lifestyle. So after a while of feeling like shit and hearing from bf that I used to have a flat belly I took up pilates.
The most important thing is to feel healthy and good in your body, even if it isn't perfect. It's fine, because nobody's perfect. And as you said, some people look good when they're a bit plump, they're still beautiful :)
The problem is media advertise perfect models with perfect, photoshopped bodies and people don't realize those images aren't what the model actually looks like.

I'm sorry to hear about your Girlfriend/Friend who died

Oh,Ya My Wrath Is Limitless.XD And I Used To Be REALLY Skinny. Like,You Could See My Ribs,Skinny. I Only Started Gaining Anything,After I Started Working In A Hotel Laundry Room (God,That Job Sucked. Like,For Real You Have No Idea). But Ya,So Long As You're Healthy Then You're Good To Go. Hell,Caveman Used To HAVE To Be Plump To Survive (It Helped Protect Them From The Cold,As Well As Help Them Keep Energy Until They Could Find More Food) So A Little Meat On Your Bones Never Hurt (Besides,Most Of The Time The Lack Of Beauty Is Not From Being Fat: It's From The Fat Person Giving Up On Trying To Stay Pretty. It's More Psychological Then Anything Else). And Ya,My Girlfriend/Friend Was Seeing Family In Brazil And Drowned While At The Beach. I Only Found Out After I Saw A Bunch Of "RIP" On Her Profile And Demanded That Someone Tell Me What The Hell Was Going On.

Hehe, I know the skinny type, I was that skinny too. I began gaining weight at puberty (mostly breasts tho) and then when I met bf and my diet went from "I'm too lazy to cook something/not eating properly" to "honey, can we buy a box of those delicious cookies again?/should we order pizza or chinese?" XD
Yeah, I could use some of that protective fat, I get cold too easily
Oh my, what a terrible way to find out about it!

Ya,Being A Skinny Bitch Is Pretty Good.XD If You Want My Trainer Denis's Advice,Try To Eat Carbs,Vegies And Meat At Least Four Times A Day Then Work It Off By Doing Cardio,Resistance Training And A Little Lifting. Granted,Take This With A Grain A Salt But That's The BASIC Plan He's Got Me On. And Ya,It Sucked Finding Out That Way. But I'd Rather Have Found Out That Way,Then Not At All.

JamBerry IceCream wrote:I'm struggling with self control right now. I should be doing homework, but I got sidetracked here instead. My homework was due 30 minutes ago and I haven't even started.
My anxiety is going through the roof and I'm afraid I am slowly giving up on school. I don't want that to be the case; I think I'm just feeling this way because I am taking my two worst subjects in school right now. At the same time. I'm extra frustrated.

I'm Not Claiming To Be A Good Influence,But School Is Pretty Useless Unless You Wanna Go To Collage (And Collage Ain't For Everyone). My Sage Advice Is To Do JUST Enough To Pass. Trust Me,Most Of It Won't Matter In The Real World Unless You Want To Do Something That Requires It (And Those Are Few And Far Between) So Might As Well Just Do The Bare Min And Wait For Graduation. As For The Anxiety,You Can Always Go Get Drugs For It But You Can ALSO (And Just Hear Me Out) Try Buying A Pacifier. Think About It: The Job Of A Pacifier Is To Sooth. To Relax. If You Feel Your Anxiety Start To Pop Up Then Just Grab Your Pacifier,Maybe Turn On Some Relaxing Music,Close Your Eyes And Just Start Sucking On It As You Let Your Mind Go Blank. Trust Me,I Do This And It's Like Meditation And Works Like A CHARM. Granted,Ya Might Wanna Find A Place To Hide It But It's Super Easy So Long As You Remember Were It Is And Is Totally Worth It. But That's Just My Advice. I Ain't A Psychologist Or Nothing So Take It As You Will With The Knowledge That Both Have Worked For Me.

I do need to vent. I'm at the end of my second year of uni and I still don't know what I am doing with my life.
Like, I was so sure that L A W is perfect for me and now I'm not so sure anymore. I've always been more on the artsy side (I do draw from time to time and I do a lot of dyis), but I also always loved to study. But right now I feel like I'm not good at any of these. I still wonder... How much time do I need until I figure out what I am going to do with my life? I don't want to decide when it's too late.

Haha, I'm after college, still have no idea what I'm doing with my life.
And recently my bf told me he's worried I want kids so early (I'm close to 25, it's not that early, come on ) only because I have no other interests or passion or idea what to do with myself besides becoming a mother.
I mean, first of all, I have more stable interests and hobbies than you do, you're only interested in stuff for a short while or on a shallow level so shut the duck up, would ya?
Second of all, what's so wrong if I just really want to be a mom? Is that so wrong? Would you rather I'd be some carrier-pursuing bitch with no maternal instincts whatsoever? Is that what you want? And then when YOU'RE ready to get settled I'm suddenly supposed to say "okay, I want to be a mother now, since you want it"?
Nu-uh. Not me, not happening. I'm not a carrier pursuing bitch, sorry for being a very homely person with maternal instincts. Sorry for not being mature enough in your eyes to be thinking about kids. Maybe you treat me as such but when we finally will have a child I bet you're gonna be the lost one, while I'll be kicking your sorry ass at parenting.

Okay, that escalated quickly, I guess I needed to vent a bit as well

@Laviandre: I'm told it's never too late, I know it's a bit of an empty saying. Try to finish your law at uni, but also keep pushing on your artsy soul. You'll figure it out

Sekhmet wrote:I'm Not Claiming To Be A Good Influence,But School Is Pretty Useless Unless You Wanna Go To Collage (And Collage Ain't For Everyone). My Sage Advice Is To Do JUST Enough To Pass. Trust Me,Most Of It Won't Matter In The Real World Unless You Want To Do Something That Requires It (And Those Are Few And Far Between) So Might As Well Just Do The Bare Min And Wait For Graduation. As For The Anxiety,You Can Always Go Get Drugs For It But You Can ALSO (And Just Hear Me Out) Try Buying A Pacifier. Think About It: The Job Of A Pacifier Is To Sooth. To Relax. If You Feel Your Anxiety Start To Pop Up Then Just Grab Your Pacifier,Maybe Turn On Some Relaxing Music,Close Your Eyes And Just Start Sucking On It As You Let Your Mind Go Blank. Trust Me,I Do This And It's Like Meditation And Works Like A CHARM. Granted,Ya Might Wanna Find A Place To Hide It But It's Super Easy So Long As You Remember Were It Is And Is Totally Worth It. But That's Just My Advice. I Ain't A Psychologist Or Nothing So Take It As You Will With The Knowledge That Both Have Worked For Me.

I am in college. Finals stress me out. I'm also in my weakest subjects for school. So I'm afraid even doing the bare minimum won't be enough to pass. These classes are a requirement though. D:<
I am also distracted easily. ;0;

All I want to do is paint and make money. xD That's my goal in life. I'm going to die happy.

memoriam wrote:Haha, I'm after college, still have no idea what I'm doing with my life.
And recently my bf told me he's worried I want kids so early (I'm close to 25, it's not that early, come on ) only because I have no other interests or passion or idea what to do with myself besides becoming a mother.
I mean, first of all, I have more stable interests and hobbies than you do, you're only interested in stuff for a short while or on a shallow level so shut the duck up, would ya?
Second of all, what's so wrong if I just really want to be a mom? Is that so wrong? Would you rather I'd be some carrier-pursuing bitch with no maternal instincts whatsoever? Is that what you want? And then when YOU'RE ready to get settled I'm suddenly supposed to say "okay, I want to be a mother now, since you want it"?
Nu-uh. Not me, not happening. I'm not a carrier pursuing bitch, sorry for being a very homely person with maternal instincts. Sorry for not being mature enough in your eyes to be thinking about kids. Maybe you treat me as such but when we finally will have a child I bet you're gonna be the lost one, while I'll be kicking your sorry ass at parenting.

Okay, that escalated quickly, I guess I needed to vent a bit as well

If you guys have two totally different paths in mind you should really sit down and have a straightforward talk with him. You might discover that he is not the right person for you.

If you want kids and that's where your mind is set, that's great. Wonderful. I am happy for you for knowing what you want in life. Your significant other needs to either support you, or begoooonnneee.
I have no maternal instincts. Pahaha. I'd much rather take care of a cat. Cats take care of themselves.
And you're absolutely right. What is wrong with wanting to be a mom? Nothing. If you want to have kids, you have that right and there's nothing wrong about that. Some people have the drive more than others and that's OK, too. I have an older cousin who is about 35 years old and her biological clock is only JUST NOW hitting her. She never had the yearning or "baby fever" before this. Everyone is different and your boyfriend needs to understand that. If he can't support that you want kids, then he needs to realize that you both have different goals.

Sit down and really have a heart to heart with him. If you can't convince him or if he can't convince you, then think, I mean REALLY think about your goals in life and what you want to pursue. There might be a chance you convince him or vice versa, but if you cannot, it might be time to let him go... >__<
I hate saying that, too. But you are the number one person in your life, you need to take care of you and do what you want.

I'm kind of having similar issues with my boyfriend. He is 31 and is already thinking about kids. I'm like, "Bitch. I'm still going to school. I don't have time to think about that kind of crap right now. xD" Once I graduate (I don't want kids at all.), I might consider something like that... But the big problem I have with that is, children are F*CKING EXPENSIVE. Also, your freedom goes right out the window once you have kids. I like my freedom. I like to do whatever I want and when I want. I can take care of people no problem, I'm the best babysitter ever, but I'll lose my mind if I spawn. That's 24/7 for the next MINIMAL 18 years of my life.

I moved back home with my mom and grandpa so I could save money and go back to school. I'm a full time student and barely working. I'm 27 xD;; And I hate that I feel like a damn mooch. Once I finish school, I'm gonna work. WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK (Rhiannalooolll). I want to save money so I can travel. I want to see places. Japan, Alaska, Germany, Thaiwan, Belize. Omg. I can't do that if I had a kid.

My boyfriend was ready to break up with me, but I had to put him in his place, "LISTEN, SUSAN. I'm still in school. Putting that kind of pressure on me is COMPLETELY unfair. I'm trying to get a degree so I can make more money. MORE MONEY SO I CAN SUPPORT MYSELF IN THIS EXPENSIVE ASS CITY. lol."
He hasn't even finished college. I'm trying to convince him to go back, too. "You want more money? Finish school. It is not the time nor place to be thinking about starting a family. This world is overpopulated as it is. Chillout."

He shut up real quick. For a while, I noticed his behavior changed and I found out that was the reason why. So I KNEW I had to have this conversation with him. And after that conversation, we're actually LOADS HAPPIER NOW. He realized I was right. First things first, taking care of ourselves. Don't put yourself in a position where you will become financially unstable. You'll hate and regret all the decisions you made.

I would much rather regret NOT having children than to regret HAVING children. That's so much worse. >_>;

@JamBerry IceCream, thanks for your input, I appreciate it, but we've had that heart to heart talk multiple times already and we both agree we want kids. It's not the right time though.

The issue with my venting was that he said I have no other interests in life than becoming a mom, which is not true, and that I am too immature to be a mother right now. What also hurt my feelings. I don't think I'm the most mature person in the world, but I consider myself mature enough to be able to raise a child if we had an accident right about soon.

I understand we are financially unable to support a whole family right now, not to mention we live with my grandma. But I think he's too critical of both of us (he also considers himself too immature to have a child, I also disagree).
My top age for having a first child was 25, I'll be turning 25 in October this year. There's no chance we can buy an appartment until then, plus you need to finish the apartment with furniture etc. Buying an apartment is at least a year ahead, not mentioning starting a family. So in our case I'm the one who needs to sober up and be more flexible.

And no, I'm not breaking up with him, I'm stubborn and I want him to be the father of my children, even if I have to wait a bit longer I'm hoping once we get the apartment we can start thinking about anything else.