Recently I got approved to be a surrogate.
I haven't meet any intended familys yet but I could carrie for anyone.
I'm both excited and a bit nervous at the same time.
I really can't wait to give some one a baby they have longed for.
What are some of your views on the subject.

I think it's wonderful.

That's wonderful!
I had thought about it before, when one of my friends was having trouble conceiving

But ultimately I changed my mind, and she was able to conceive her own children.

But i think it's a very generous and kind thing to do for someone

I think I wouldn't be able to do that. But at the same time, I think you're giving people a deserved sense of hope, and are being incredibly generous and kind, and the world needs more generous and kind people.

Unpopular opinion ahead! Be warned.

I'm really against surrogacy as a concept. There are already too many people in the world. Paying someone to have a baby for you is weird and selfish in my opinion. Why not adopt a kid that's already been made? It's not nearly as expensive as surrogacy, and you're helping a child in need, and you're not contributing to over population.

I really wanted to surrogate. Then I realized that most people hit their kids and are terrible parents. Also, I'd have to worry about the parents wanting me to have a selective abortion or not wanting the child when it's born. I decided that it's just better to let people adopt. I think it can be a beautiful thing for just the right people.

I always said I wouldn't mind surrogacy if it was possible. After all if all sides are looked at correctly you end up making a family come to reality. :}

light_sucks wrote:Unpopular opinion ahead! Be warned.

I'm really against surrogacy as a concept. There are already too many people in the world. Paying someone to have a baby for you is weird and selfish in my opinion. Why not adopt a kid that's already been made? It's not nearly as expensive as surrogacy, and you're helping a child in need, and you're not contributing to over population.

As long as you're not saying you want to make a LAW against surrogacy, then I don't think your opinion is a bad one. ;)

I don't want kids, but I feel like if I did I'd definitely consider adopting. I'd probably want to shop around and get the weirdest kid they have, because I definitely want a weirdo, no normal kids for me boo.

However, have you ever been in love, light? I have and am, and as against-having-kids as I always have been, sometimes I look at him and I think, "Man I would love to have a tiny version of him." Humans don't last very long, and it's sad to me to think that he's going to end and that'll be all there is of him, nothing to continue on, and when I think about that I think yeah, I kinda almost want to procreate with him. I mean sure, you can adopt a kid and raise them with your values, and carry on in that way, but it's not quite the same is it? I want the kid to maybe have his big nose, and his hands, and his weird brain. I didn't know him in his childhood, and having his kid would be almost like being able to do that.

So when I think of all that, I don't really think of it as selfish to want your own, blood-related kin.

Of course lots of people breed as a matter of course, out of boredom basically, or to save a relationship, and those people ARE weird and selfish. I've seen them in grocery stores and at restaurants telling their kids to shut up just because they're making kid noises, and I think wow, you hate your kid that bad that you can't stand its cute kid-noises, why'd you have it? It's so sad to see the number of them that really just do seem to loathe their own children, just casually shouting at them or smacking them. It's more common than not to see bad parents. At least the ones who have to go through all the cost and worry of surrogacy are more likely to cherish it and not unnecessarily shut it up all the time? Probably?

As to you Firefoxflare, I think you're brave for doing it. I never would or could, so it's nice to know people like you are out there, taking up the slack for cowards like me. ;)